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| bobakey |
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Senescence wrote: To the west !
Erm... Did I miss something?
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However, it is so good to hear such a vast amount of people to proclaim how happy they are as who they are.
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On other notes, me and boyfriend met up in London yesterday and I made a discision to hold his hand throughout nearly the whole day. Wow. I love the power of two gay men holding hands.
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bobakey wrote: Senescence wrote: To the west !
Erm... Did I miss something?
hu ... my sexual orientation ... to the west ... 
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Senescence wrote: bobakey wrote: Senescence wrote: To the west !
Erm... Did I miss something?
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Senescence wrote: To the west !
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Hmm...I've been hovering around this topic for a while debating whether to post or not.
Basically, I came out a few years back at college to a couple of friends, which was a bit of a mistake as I think I don't think I'd truly accepted it myself; this led to me being promptly forced out of the closet by a 'friend' - and for a while this felt ok, I was finally being honest with people and felt able to be myself. However, things then got a little complicated with the friend, and, essentially, I got screwed over in a big way. After this I left for Uni, and, perhaps slightly encouraged by the 'general' acceptance level back home, decided to tell a couple of people I trusted - turns out that they weren't so trustworthy, and the final part of my first year I was faced with vast amounts of homophobia and bullying, making my halls experience something of a misery.
Needless to say that my coming out too early, coupled with what had occured with my 'friend' and the bullying forced me back into the closet, passing myself as bi and then eventually straight.
It's now only recently that, and with much help from one of my closest friends (who will never know quite how much he's done for me) that I feel finally able to accept who I am, and begin the process (again) of telling people, or in some cases re-telling people.
In a way it's a shame because, although I had an absolutely amazing time at University and wouldn't trade my memories (except perhaps for my halls experience) or my friends for anything - but I feel that somewhere along the line I've missed out on relationships and friends that I could have had by just being honest. |
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Okay, so I have learned that over half of my friends are lesbians. So, a while back I posted something in the How Was Your Day about finding out that my best friend was a lesbian and never told me. But she told a bunch of other people. I was offended that she was afraid to tell me. So, when I finally got her to tell me, I was relieved. But now it was my turn...Gah, I still cannot put it into words. I can't even say it. But yeah, I joined them. I guess my entire group of friends is coming out! Ha ha! Well, we are to each other. But none of us are telling anyone. I definitely won't because I know someone at school will physically hurt me.
I feel comfortable saying this here for a few different reasons. Like, a lot of us here are in fact gay and if you aren't, you're very accepting. Which is exactly the way the world should be.
But now I wish to share something...Okay, I had been questioning since like 7th grade. That was around the time that I got the Gay title and I never knew why. So I started wondering. I guess I came to the complete realization this year. One day before school, my friend points to this guy and says, "He asked Brittney out. But she went on his Myspace and he had it set to Bi, so she said no, (BTW, Brittney is a lesbian and that is before any of us knew it)" All of a sudden, it was like the hallelujah chorus sang and a light was cast on him. I was thrown into this massive crush that I could not control. I don't even know him and that totally sucks. But then he went through his ultra confused phase. I would see it on his Myspace, it would go Bi, Straight, Bi, No Answer... and then a few days ago, I went to his Myspace (If you knew what he looked like....whew) and I almost died. It most definitely now says, Gay. So, that's what I talk to my two best friends about every night now that they know. I know that they won't run around telling everyone.
But yeah, Brittney knows him personally and laughs at me all the time. She has come to the conclusion that given the chance, I would almost be his servant. You know, do anything for him. She isn't wrong. Ha ha.
So yeah, it's fun to talk about because I have it all bottled up inside of me forever. But only two people (and a bunch of iBabblers) know, and that is how I intend to keep it at least until college. It would be too hard with all of our over night band trips. I'm not saying that I would be looking at any of my room mates, because that is a total stereotype. No, I just don't want to be hated and not wanted in anyone's room. So....oh well, I'm comfortable with who knows at this point.
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Given my background living in a village I became extremely inward in terms of my sexuality. I mean I am 20 and hormones are all over the place and I have had a tendency of being relationship driven.
Given my recent break up I have discovered what it is like living in a city and being single. Especially in such a big city such as Sydney. The gay community is thriving and huge. Fun to be had all the time.
Since moving here I have really come into myself. I have learned a lot. Heard other peoples storys.
Sadly I have decided to handle my break up in a different way. One that can be just as hurtful. I have just ended up ....excuse my bluntness, drinking and shagging. One of the curse's of livining here is having all these excessivness available.
I have come to a stage again where I wish I was in a relationship. After everything I have relised that being in a relationship is exactly the kind of person I am.
But being me and having my preference like...older men its hard ever having a relationship.
There in lies my complication.............wanting a relationship but having one with an older men is going to be hard.
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aldaboss wrote: And gay relationships alone are hard to keep going.
I couldn't agree more - I think there's a certain mentality that's perceived about the gay culture that it is one of excess and debauchery, and sadly, to some extent I think that certain elements of that culture live up to that. It's particularly hard when you can only really actively meet people on 'the scene', where the focus tends to be more on the one night stands and short term relationships (at least that's what I've found).
I also think that the danger is that the desire for a relationship, and that perception that it's hard to meet people as easily as in a 'straight relationship' can lead you to form relationships that perhaps aren't as healthy and rounded as they could be; again that's just my experience and it's kind of comforting to see that there ARE people on these boards who've managed the healthy long-term relationship side of things.
Meh! That's not quite structured in the way I'd planned it to come out, but hopefully you get the general gist.
Also, well done on coming out AASPBY, even if it is only on here and to a group of close friends, every little helps and it's good to have a support network you can fall back on and call on when things get difficult. |
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AASPBY wrote: Okay, so I have learned that over half of my friends are lesbians. So, a while back I posted something in the How Was Your Day about finding out that my best friend was a lesbian and never told me. But she told a bunch of other people. I was offended that she was afraid to tell me. So, when I finally got her to tell me, I was relieved. But now it was my turn...Gah, I still cannot put it into words. I can't even say it. But yeah, I joined them. I guess my entire group of friends is coming out! Ha ha! Well, we are to each other. But none of us are telling anyone. I definitely won't because I know someone at school will physically hurt me.
I feel comfortable saying this here for a few different reasons. Like, a lot of us here are in fact gay and if you aren't, you're very accepting. Which is exactly the way the world should be.
But now I wish to share something...Okay, I had been questioning since like 7th grade. That was around the time that I got the Gay title and I never knew why. So I started wondering. I guess I came to the complete realization this year. One day before school, my friend points to this guy and says, "He asked Brittney out. But she went on his Myspace and he had it set to Bi, so she said no, (BTW, Brittney is a lesbian and that is before any of us knew it)" All of a sudden, it was like the hallelujah chorus sang and a light was cast on him. I was thrown into this massive crush that I could not control. I don't even know him and that totally sucks. But then he went through his ultra confused phase. I would see it on his Myspace, it would go Bi, Straight, Bi, No Answer... and then a few days ago, I went to his Myspace (If you knew what he looked like....whew) and I almost died. It most definitely now says, Gay. So, that's what I talk to my two best friends about every night now that they know. I know that they won't run around telling everyone.
But yeah, Brittney knows him personally and laughs at me all the time. She has come to the conclusion that given the chance, I would almost be his servant. You know, do anything for him. She isn't wrong. Ha ha.
So yeah, it's fun to talk about because I have it all bottled up inside of me forever. But only two people (and a bunch of iBabblers) know, and that is how I intend to keep it at least until college. It would be too hard with all of our over night band trips. I'm not saying that I would be looking at any of my room mates, because that is a total stereotype. No, I just don't want to be hated and not wanted in anyone's room. So....oh well, I'm comfortable with who knows at this point.
If anyone wants to give me any encouraging words or advice on my future, I would appreciate it.
mercifully, high school will end before you know it, and for as much as death is an equalizer, so is college...nobody gives a shit, or cares who you are. do what you need to do to stay safe and comfortable and sane until you can move on, then spread your wings like a proper butterfly. |
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lovehound wrote: AASPBY wrote: Okay, so I have learned that over half of my friends are lesbians. So, a while back I posted something in the How Was Your Day about finding out that my best friend was a lesbian and never told me. But she told a bunch of other people. I was offended that she was afraid to tell me. So, when I finally got her to tell me, I was relieved. But now it was my turn...Gah, I still cannot put it into words. I can't even say it. But yeah, I joined them. I guess my entire group of friends is coming out! Ha ha! Well, we are to each other. But none of us are telling anyone. I definitely won't because I know someone at school will physically hurt me.
I feel comfortable saying this here for a few different reasons. Like, a lot of us here are in fact gay and if you aren't, you're very accepting. Which is exactly the way the world should be.
But now I wish to share something...Okay, I had been questioning since like 7th grade. That was around the time that I got the Gay title and I never knew why. So I started wondering. I guess I came to the complete realization this year. One day before school, my friend points to this guy and says, "He asked Brittney out. But she went on his Myspace and he had it set to Bi, so she said no, (BTW, Brittney is a lesbian and that is before any of us knew it)" All of a sudden, it was like the hallelujah chorus sang and a light was cast on him. I was thrown into this massive crush that I could not control. I don't even know him and that totally sucks. But then he went through his ultra confused phase. I would see it on his Myspace, it would go Bi, Straight, Bi, No Answer... and then a few days ago, I went to his Myspace (If you knew what he looked like....whew) and I almost died. It most definitely now says, Gay. So, that's what I talk to my two best friends about every night now that they know. I know that they won't run around telling everyone.
But yeah, Brittney knows him personally and laughs at me all the time. She has come to the conclusion that given the chance, I would almost be his servant. You know, do anything for him. She isn't wrong. Ha ha.
So yeah, it's fun to talk about because I have it all bottled up inside of me forever. But only two people (and a bunch of iBabblers) know, and that is how I intend to keep it at least until college. It would be too hard with all of our over night band trips. I'm not saying that I would be looking at any of my room mates, because that is a total stereotype. No, I just don't want to be hated and not wanted in anyone's room. So....oh well, I'm comfortable with who knows at this point.
If anyone wants to give me any encouraging words or advice on my future, I would appreciate it.
mercifully, high school will end before you know it, and for as much as death is an equalizer, so is college...nobody gives a shit, or cares who you are. do what you need to do to stay safe and comfortable and sane until you can move on, then spread your wings like a proper butterfly.
Lovehound i think what you said has summed it up to the facts. |
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it's amazing how everyone is coming out here,
well, i dont know what i am, its just, well i dont know if i should say it here, but oh well i will, when i was younger a guy tried to do.. stuff to me, and i never said anything or told anyone, until just recently, and its been getting to me alot, so i often find myself a mess, and sometimes ill be fine, sometimes ill just crack it, but like, they guy who did it, sometimes his mum comes into where i work and its so hard, cos i have to be nice to her and serve her, and all i want to do is tell her how filthy her son is for doing things to a 8 year old, but anyway, i think i have said a little too much. Sometimesi just wanna let it all out, but its hard to find the right person, and its hard to say exactly what i want.
Which is why i get a bit upset sometimes.
So, i dont know if im straight, bi or lesbian or what, its just like i have no idea
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Oh maddy, I am so sorry. That is horrible. Have you ever thought about talking to a professional psychologist or something? Those kinds of things shouldn't be bottled up like that.
I hope everything works out for the best for you.
Well, for me it turns out the guy I had a mega crush on...is either in denial or really straight. He claims someone messed with his profile. No one I talk to seems to think he really is straight. But oh well. I feel more lonely than ever, especially these past three days...*sigh* |
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Quote: Oh maddy, I am so sorry. That is horrible. Have you ever thought about talking to a professional psychologist or something? Those kinds of things shouldn't be bottled up like that.
I hope everything works out for the best for you.
welll i dont want to get help from some professional because, well i dont want my mum to find ou, or people to think im some looney, so i just talk to friends, but sometimes they dont listen, or arent there 24/7, which i mean, tahts not their fault, they aren't here to run after me all day, but it just always seems that when i need someone to talk to noone is there. *sigh*
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maddy wrote: it's amazing how everyone is coming out here,
well, i dont know what i am, its just, well i dont know if i should say it here, but oh well i will, when i was younger a guy tried to do.. stuff to me, and i never said anything or told anyone, until just recently, and its been getting to me alot, so i often find myself a mess, and sometimes ill be fine, sometimes ill just crack it, but like, they guy who did it, sometimes his mum comes into where i work and its so hard, cos i have to be nice to her and serve her, and all i want to do is tell her how filthy her son is for doing things to a 8 year old, but anyway, i think i have said a little too much. Sometimesi just wanna let it all out, but its hard to find the right person, and its hard to say exactly what i want.
Which is why i get a bit upset sometimes.
So, i dont know if im straight, bi or lesbian or what, its just like i have no idea
im going to press submit, but ill probably regret it
Maddy that was a brave thing to tell us.
I myself was molested too and know the feeling. You feel like you cant tell anyone for so many reasons. They always say report it or tell someone but it is that easy. There are so many things that can come it.
I found to deal with it I let it out there other outlets such as art,film and music. Yet the whole incident sat heavy on me. My dad found out soon after it happened and I went through 2 years of court cases.
One of the reasons I found it hard to come out was because of what happened to me. The man himself was 53. I felt so wrong to the point of doing something stupid to myself because , there I was, a young kid who absolutly loves older guys but having this happen to me. I didnt want it, i didnt like him at all, it was forced but it made me feel dirty every moment after that when I would think of older men.
Luckily over time that got easier. It was very much a case of trust. I lost trust in older men, that they might abuse my trust, force themselves and such. Over time I tried to recover. But incidents such as my ex stop me from gaining a recovery. But I am a realtionship orientated guy so giving myself up to someone fully is hard when you have a past. Sadly, I gave it up to alister and well..............my trust was ruined again. |
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| well thats exactly what i dont want, the court cases etc, even just people fussing, i just want to let it out and move on, but i know it isnt good taht this has happened, but its good taht there are other poeple out there to talk to. Also, i dont want my mum to find out, and tonight it was hard, because, we were all in the car, me and 2 friends, and they were like who do you like maddy? and mum was driving, and i said noone, because, they were all talking about guys, and i just dont find most guys attractive. So they were like, what are you imbarrased, and i really didnt feel comfortable. because, i dont know i guess im bi? i dont really know, and because all the girls at school who have beyfriends talk about how all their boyfriends want is sex, i just cant imagine myself with someone, i wouldn't mind seeing myself with someone, but i just dont think it will ever happen |
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maddy wrote: well thats exactly what i dont want, the court cases etc, even just people fussing, i just want to let it out and move on, but i know it isnt good taht this has happened, but its good taht there are other poeple out there to talk to. Also, i dont want my mum to find out, and tonight it was hard, because, we were all in the car, me and 2 friends, and they were like who do you like maddy? and mum was driving, and i said noone, because, they were all talking about guys, and i just dont find most guys attractive. So they were like, what are you imbarrased, and i really didnt feel comfortable. because, i dont know i guess im bi? i dont really know, and because all the girls at school who have beyfriends talk about how all their boyfriends want is sex, i just cant imagine myself with someone, i wouldn't mind seeing myself with someone, but i just dont think it will ever happen
That's because straight guys are gross. Ha ha! J/K, but some of them are...*Shutters*
I seriously hope everything works out for you! I wish there was no such thing as pain and suffering. I also wish that bad people didn't exist. But they do, and they hurt, and we have to deal with them. Where is the justice in that? There's nothing wrong with being bi, gay or straight. It's all in how we're made.
Again, I hope things get better for you. Maybe you need to find this scum and beat the crap out of him. Would that help? Ha ha. Seriously, I'll say it one more time, I hope and pray things get better for you. |
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Princess_Zelda wrote: o.o I know...Most straight guys I know are so freakin perverted...
Lol, try older men.PERVERTS!
Quote: well thats exactly what i dont want, the court cases etc, even just people fussing, i just want to let it out and move on, but i know it isnt good taht this has happened, but its good taht there are other poeple out there to talk to. Also, i dont want my mum to find out, and tonight it was hard, because, we were all in the car, me and 2 friends, and they were like who do you like maddy? and mum was driving, and i said noone, because, they were all talking about guys, and i just dont find most guys attractive. So they were like, what are you imbarrased, and i really didnt feel comfortable. because, i dont know i guess im bi? i dont really know, and because all the girls at school who have beyfriends talk about how all their boyfriends want is sex, i just cant imagine myself with someone, i wouldn't mind seeing myself with someone, but i just dont think it will ever happen
Yes court cases arent the best route.After all the drama and such you will NEVER get closure. Sure it gets slightly easier.
In terms of your friends and this boyfriend situation just go with the flow. Dont worry about knowing now or later. It all comes in good time and you will come more into who you are over time. The whole thing is really a developement. In todays society its getting easier for people to accept others being gay....that said, its still not easy.
I remember being in the same situation when my brother would ask me who I fancied, did I have any girlfriends? I said no and continued to say no for years. Then when I came out he was like "i knew for ages, you kept on saying you didnt have girlfriends" my sisters reaction was pretty much the same. So they where cool about it.....well till I told them how old my boyfriend at the time was.
But its times like these that test peoples loyalty. Honestly maddy there is no need to even say anything about your sexuality. Its a need to know basis sort of thing. Its personal. But when the time comes and you want to....you will know when that is. |
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Quote: That's because straight guys are gross. Ha ha! J/K, but some of them are...*Shutters*
I seriously hope everything works out for you! I wish there was no such thing as pain and suffering. I also wish that bad people didn't exist. But they do, and they hurt, and we have to deal with them. Where is the justice in that? There's nothing wrong with being bi, gay or straight. It's all in how we're made.
Again, I hope things get better for you. Maybe you need to find this scum and beat the crap out of him. Would that help? Ha ha. Seriously, I'll say it one more time, I hope and pray things get better for you.
Thanks heaps AASPBY, its true, (not all, but alot) of straight guys are so rude and perverted, usually the quiet pollite ones are the ones i like, but they are usually gay, so that kinda stuff everything up, and my best friend at school is gay(but i dont like him in that way), but you guys are so nice here, and much better than my friends, you guys actualy care, my friends dont really, they can be stuck up cows.
Quote: Yes court cases arent the best route.After all the drama and such you will NEVER get closure. Sure it gets slightly easier.
In terms of your friends and this boyfriend situation just go with the flow. Dont worry about knowing now or later. It all comes in good time and you will come more into who you are over time. The whole thing is really a developement. In todays society its getting easier for people to accept others being gay....that said, its still not easy.
I remember being in the same situation when my brother would ask me who I fancied, did I have any girlfriends? I said no and continued to say no for years. Then when I came out he was like "i knew for ages, you kept on saying you didnt have girlfriends" my sisters reaction was pretty much the same. So they where cool about it.....well till I told them how old my boyfriend at the time was.
But its times like these that test peoples loyalty. Honestly maddy there is no need to even say anything about your sexuality. Its a need to know basis sort of thing. Its personal. But when the time comes and you want to....you will know when that is.
Thanks, yeah, i dont want to have everyone knowing, but i do want to talk to someone about it, and i do have one friend who is aot older, and i talk to her about it, she is great to talk to, but i dont see her alot, and sometimes that can be hard. I dont know, i guess i call myself bi, but maybe im full on lesbian? i really dont know. Time will tell. |
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[quote="maddy"]Quote: I dont know, i guess i call myself bi, but maybe im full on lesbian? i really dont know. Time will tell.
I've been reading over whats been going on in this thread for a bit... and one thing that I can't stress enough is that when it comes to sexuality, sometimes time will only tell.
When you come into feelings for someone of the same sex, it seems like we must resolve them straight away. People want to put themselves in a box and stick a label on it saying "straight, gay or bi"... thats because we as a human race feel more comfortable when we know "what we are"... so we never really give the time to just.. well you know, float.
Sometimes its good to just your feelings mature and develope, What I mean is - you will over time experience things, sensations, contact with male or females and over time you will get an understanding of what works for you.
Maddy, do you mind me asking where you live, - I say this because I think Alan's comment about society changing is a bit dependant on where you live. I get the feeling your from the US. if thats the case then perhaps its not good for me to make sweeping comments, but generally I get the feeling that its very hard to come out as being gay in America, just the views, what with religion being so strong etc etc... where as over here in the UK, its getting so much easier, society is developing - ALOT. All the time, with new laws and new actions being put into place to support gay/bi/lesbian people.
As for what you spoke about ... concerning the personal matter of yours. Hmm. I honestly don't know. I've never been through that, and I am lucky I must say because it does happen and there are many people that it has hapened to. So firstly I suppose, don't feel like you're the only one because you're not. As for seeking support, again take one step at a time, if you talk the friends about it then that is one source of an outlet for you feelings etc, but just take your time. If it affects you so much that you honestly feel that the authorities need to be told, so that justice is done, then... thats a step that you will have to think about when it comes to that.
Anyways I'm been blabbering on... hope I've helped, or not even helped, just... erm... yeah.
hehe.
Stay Straight. Stay Gay. Stay Bi. or Stay Lesbian. Yayyyy.
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Im not from America, im from australia.
andi dont label myself as anything really, i just like people. not one particular sex, just particular people.
And as strange as this may sound, i dont want justice or anything, i just want to talk about how i feel, not what he deserves etc. i dont know why, when i think about it you would think i do, but strangely i dont. |
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bobakey wrote: I say this because I think Alan's comment about society changing is a bit dependant on where you live.
*nods* US teenagers can be so cruel. |
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Princess_Zelda wrote: bobakey wrote: I say this because I think Alan's comment about society changing is a bit dependant on where you live.
*nods* US teenagers can be so cruel.
God come to Ireland. A few people knew when I lived there but once I left everyone knew and on top of that people found out I like older men. Then the shit really hit the fan.
SADLY when I go back to ireland for a visit in august I wont be very welcome thats for sure. |
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Quote: *nods* US teenagers can be so cruel.
and aussie kids too, i think its like that everywhere.
Quote: God come to Ireland. A few people knew when I lived there but once I left everyone knew and on top of that people found out I like older men. Then the shit really hit the fan.
SADLY when I go back to ireland for a visit in august I wont be very welcome thats for sure.
aww tahts no good, stuff them, if they dont like you for whop you are, well thats just stupid, but i do know how you feel though, if people at school found out, the shit would hit the fan, and i would feel like shit. It doesnt help taht im towards the "lower" end of the "ranking order" at school |
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Well, by judgment of the Kinsey scale, I'd give myself a 3 (don't know what the Kinsey scale is, look up wikipedia for it)
But honestly, it's hard to say, considering I haven't be able to experience any kind of romance with the same sex, not even because I'm afraid (I'm more than willing to try) but considering where I live at the moment, homosexuality of any from is unheard of, if not considered a taboo. Most people are either homophobic or closet cases, and most of those who are open about such sexuality aren't exactly the most "enjoyable" people.
But I digress, it really is a bit disheartening. |
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i didnt know what a kinsey scale was but i found out and i realised i have heard of it, and i would say im a 4? i think  i dont really know. |
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| AASPBY |
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aldaboss wrote: Princess_Zelda wrote: bobakey wrote: I say this because I think Alan's comment about society changing is a bit dependant on where you live.
*nods* US teenagers can be so cruel.
God come to Ireland. A few people knew when I lived there but once I left everyone knew and on top of that people found out I like older men. Then the shit really hit the fan.
SADLY when I go back to ireland for a visit in august I wont be very welcome thats for sure.
Gah! That really sucks. I hate it when people judge. No one has the right to do so, but they all do. |
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| I hope you don't think this to be cliche or to come off as a people pleaser, but I love you, even tho I do not agree with you and I harldy even know you. also I gather from reading most of these posts that you'll didn't let other people decide for you, thats pretty important with everything. and lasty, whatever your orientation, I don't think you should define yourself by your sexuality, thats not what we live for. |
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